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26Dec

Here’s how to increase self-esteem and build confidence

A little backstory which you can skip: I was a complete loser, I’d lie about the person I wanted to be, I’d be so insecure of taking a single picture that after taking one I’d edit the fuck out of it making myself look even more weird matching those gross beauty standards, I couldn’t talk in social situations due to my social anxiety and was always awkward and didn’t get exposed to much social situations, it’d overwhelm me when ppl would display talents and have so much personality and zest in them and I’d always compare myself and fall flat. I came from a super small house and we had tons of financial issues, I couldn’t afford to have a decent diet, no clothes which would look good on me cuz I was so fucking fat, self harming, no good relations w family, barely any in real life friends, etc like, you can imagine how fucked up it was and it’s not even the end of the things I was facing but I mentioned these cuz they’d seem relatable. Now, I hit gym 6 days a week, lost weight from 85 kgs to 68 kgs, kickboxing, learning flute, quit porn and all social media except reddit, reading books, meditating, socialising and speaking my mind often, forcing myself to get out of my comfort zones, making helpful notes as I journal, learning shuffle dance, more about investing, doing well w studies, I’m so much liked and respected by my friends, developed a good bond w my family right from the scratch, I’m a lot more patient too, having amazing convos w ppl and I’m speaking my mind out, who’re genuinely so nice and kind at the gym, clg and at the kickboxing gym, getting some really nice attention from the girls around, my mental health is getting better and better and I’m so grateful for all the good and bad things which happened to me, basically I’m doing well w every aspect of life!

Here’s how to increase confidence and self-esteem:

Confidence is boosted when you expose yourself to difficult situations and come over them. You have to leave many things behind like how you’ll look in front of the camera or what others think of you, try not to care about it or even if you’re feeling afraid, do it anyway, cuz no matter what, you’ll live, you’ll survive this social situation. Ppl are only concerned about themselves, they won’t remember how stupid you looked. The more you expose yourself, the more confident and stronger you’ll come out to be. Cold approach that woman you found pretty, ask your tailor how did his day go, have deep and personal conversations w your friends like just show that you’re interested and ask more about them, pick up a new hobby which might scare you or try to break that gym PR by a small limit (pls be safe and no ego lifting.) GET OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE! And don’t ever lie to yourself, STOP LYING! TO OTHERS AND TO YOURSELF! Show your real self, I’ve started to upload more pictures of myself on stories too and it’s so freeing, to show your real self without editing and scraping it cuz you look so weird. TAKE THAT RISK!

Journal your insecurities, write down how to get over them as well, you know the answer deep down. If you don’t, there’s YouTube to help you out but yes, you’ll have to put in the time to map out a schedule which you can execute. Set up goals, literally sit down and write what kind of person you want to be and how you could be that, then slowly start incorporating things and habits to become who you want to be. Start gratitude journalling, it’s 100% effective way to become happier.
Go on a dopamine detox, slowly start incorporating healthier habits (Cuz tons of things would overwhelm you), start w personal and basic hygiene, beard cut/hair cut every 2-3 weeks, start wearing stainless steel accessories which are cheap, get clothes which fit or alter them accordingly, take care of your skin (Wake up early and at the same time everyday, wash your face w face wash, then apply moisturizer and then sunscreen before stepping out in the sun, basic skincare is that easy and it’ll do wonders to your skin), eat healthy food like 225g of spinach, 4 eggs and 2 carrots everyday along w high protein diet, these should be a non compromising thing cuz it improves your skin so much and makes you look better w tons of nutrients, looking better makes you feel better and appear more confident! Looks matter! Join a gym, lose that extra fat, get dream body, eat in a calorie deficit and w high protein! Gym is so so SO IMPORTANT!
Tell yourself you’re grateful for how much you’re putting in efforts for yourself, gratitude journal daily, find out the things which you love about yourself, NSDR daily for 15 mins, it’s like easy meditation for beginners and helps you feel rejuvenated, incorporate skills and be good at them, it takes time, but you’ll be good at them someday and progress makes one so happy, take baby steps to achieve the realistic goals which you’ve set up for yourself, your respect for yourself will start slowly increasing cuz you’re slowly becoming the person you want to be, upgrade your self image, cuz you’ll keep falling back into the patterns of the person you think you’re, tell yourself you’re a work in progress or you’re an athlete or an artist or anything which uplifts your self image, then things will start to become easier to stick to cuz they’ll become the new norm of what your self image is, you need to absolutely earn your own respect!
Talk to people, man, please talk to people, get to know about them and their interest of things or the random things they talk about, you get to learn so much. Go out there, find good ppl who have a growth mindset and are working on themselves, loneliness and all that lone wolf bs sucks, I was there, all my life but being w nice ppl is just so amazing, to increase your social skills I strongly recommend reading How to win friends and influence people by Dale Carnegie, then read The Rudest Book Ever by Shwetabh Gangwar, then I recommend Compound effect, these books are perfect cuz each focuses on different aspects, first for social skills, second for self image and self respect, last one for healthier habits/for success, if you have some issues to read them in a physical copy then audiobooks or PDFs are available too online. YOU GOT THIS!!! DON’T GIVE UP, DON’T LOSE HOPE! Tell yourself everyday it’s only about to get better and no matter what, you’ll be okay. Adopt an abundance mindset!

24Dec

Tips to build resilience

Get Together: Talk with your friends and, yes, even with your parents.
Understand that your parents may have more life experience than you do,
even if it seems they never were your age. They may be afraid for you if you’re
going through really tough times and it may be harder for them to talk about
it than it is for you! Don’t be afraid to express your opinion, even if your
parent or friend takes the opposite view. Ask questions and listen to the
answers. Get connected to your community, whether it’s as part of a church
group or a high school group.
Cut Yourself Some Slack: When something bad happens in your life,
the stresses of whatever you’re going through may heighten daily stresses.
Your emotions might already be all over the map because of hormones and
physical changes; the uncertainty during a tragedy or trauma can make these
shifts seem more extreme. Be prepared for this and go a little easy on your-
self, and on your friends.
Create A Hassle-Free Zone: Make your room or apartment a “hassle-
free zone”—not that you keep everyone out, but home should be a haven
free from stress and anxieties. But understand that your parents and siblings
may have their own stresses if something serious has just happened in your
life and may want to spend a little more time than usual with you.
Stick To The Program: Spending time in high school or on a college cam-
pus means more choices; so let home be your constant. During a time of major
stress, map out a routine and stick to it. You may be doing all kinds of new
things, but don’t forget the routines that give you comfort, whether it’s the things
you do before class, going out to lunch, or have a nightly phone call with a friend.
Take Care Of Yourself: Be sure to take care of yourself—physically,
mentally, and spiritually. And get sleep. If you don’t, you may be more grouchy
and nervous at a time when you have to stay sharp. There’s a lot going on,
and it’s going to be tough to face if you’re falling asleep on your feet.
Take Control: Even in the midst of tragedy, you can move toward
goals one small step at a time. During a really hard time, just getting out of
bed and going to school may be all you can handle, but even accomplishing
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that can help. Bad times make us feel out of control—grab some of that
control back by taking decisive action.
Express Yourself: Tragedy can bring up a bunch of conflicting emo-
tions, but sometimes, it’s just too hard to talk to someone about what you’re
feeling. If talking isn’t working, do something else to capture your emotions
like start a journal, or create art.
Help Somebody: Nothing gets your mind off your own problems like
solving someone else’s. Try volunteering in your community or at your school,
cleaning up around the house or apartment, or helping a friend with his or
her homework.
Put Things In Perspective: The very thing that has you stressed out may
be all anyone is talking about now. But eventually, things change and bad times
end. If you’re worried about whether you’ve got what it takes to get through
this, think back on a time when you faced up to your fears, whether it was
asking someone on a date or applying for a job. Learn some relaxation tech-
niques, whether it’s thinking of a particular song in times of stress, or just
taking a deep breath to calm down. Think about the important things that
have stayed the same, even while the outside world is changing. When you
talk about bad times, make sure you talk about good times as well.
Turn It Off: You want to stay informed—you may even have home-
work that requires you to watch the news. But sometimes, the news, with its
focus on the sensational, can add to the feeling that nothing is going right.
Try to limit the amount of news you take in, whether it’s from television,
newspapers or magazines, or the internet. Watching a news report once in-
forms you; watching it over and over again just adds to the stress and con-
tributes no new knowledge.
You can learn resilience. But just because you learn resilience doesn’t mean
you won’t feel stressed or anxious. You might have times when you aren’t
happy—and that’s OK. Resilience is a journey, and each person will take his
or her own time along the way. You may benefit from some of the resilience
tips above, while some of your friends may benefit from others. The skills of
resilience you learn during really bad times will be useful even after the bad
times end, and they are good skills to have every day. Resilience can help you
be one of the people who’ve “got bounce.”

Credit Source: TEEN HEALTH SERIES Mental Health Information for Teens Health Tips about Mental Wellness and Mental Illness book

23Dec

How to Create the Life That You Want in 1 Year

DO A LIFE AUDIT.

Doing a life audit is crucial for pinpointing where to make adjustments and jumpstarting your new journey.

Start by figuring out where you stand in the 8 areas of life-health, finances, personal development, career, relationship, self-care, home life, and free time.

MAKE A MINDSET SHIFT.

Your mindset is what sets the tone for everything in your life. Changing your mindset is what will change your life. What we think and believe is what we act upon.

Change your perspective- from now on anytime negative happens, instead of feeling like a victim, ask yourself what you can control or change.

CREATE A VISION.

Having a vision means we have a clear sense of purpose. It means we have much large picture of our business, or our life, then simply setting and reaching short term goals and tackling problems as they come along.

Visions are driven by passion and dreams, and they are reflected through real efforts to create real results.

WORK ON YOURSELF DAILY.

Once you have your vision, the fog lifts and your road map start to become clear again.

But nobody is going to drive the car for you. You’ve got to put in the work to achieve your goals and change your life.

Consistently, daily practice is how you make that happen. If you watered the plants just a little each day, over time you garden always grew.

DESIGN YOUR ENVIRONMENT FOR SUCCESS.

If you want to change your life, YOU aren’t the only thing that has to change- your environment has to change too. For example, if you always hang out with negative-thinking friends, you’ll tend to believe that limitations they’re setting for you.

However, if you hang out with other “do’ers” and people who want to see you succeed, there’s a much higher chance that you will.

LEARN NEW SKILLS AND IMPROVE UPON YOUR EXISTING ONES.

Nothing will change your life faster than building new skills. Whatever the case, imagine a year where you start out having a limited skill set.

The delicate time during your day to build your skills.

Learn them via books, videos, and podcasts, but don’t forget to physically practice your skills too.

7) LASTLY, ENJOY THE PROCESS.

The whole point of this exercise is to CHANGE. That what you initially sought isn’t what you want anymore.

Don’t get so focused on the process that you lose sight of what you want and most importantly…. have fun.

21Dec

The 20 things I wish I’d known in my 20s

THERE IS ONE key factor that can either damage your relationship or deepen them: your attitude. If you’re hoping to grow and maintain positive relationships in your life, read on. Below you will find a twenty-step attitude adjustment guaranteed to help you do just that.

1. Stop holding grudges.

Grudges are a waste of perfect happiness.

2. Stop complaining.

Instead, use your time and energy to do something about it.

3. Stop meaning what you don’t say

People can’t read minds. Communicate regularly and effectively.

4. Stop making it all about you.

The world revolves around the sun, not you. Take a moment to acknowledge this truth on a regular basis

5. Stop lying.

In the long run, the truth always reveals itself. Either you own up to your actions or your actions will ultimately own you.

6. Stop blaming.

When you blame others for what you’re going through, you deny responsibility-you give up your power over that part of your life, and you annoy everyone around you in the process.

7. Stop doubting.

Don’t let your self-doubt interfere with other people’s dreams. Be supportive, or stay out of the way.

8. Stop interrupting.

Correcting someone when they’re blatantly wrong is one thing, but always interjecting your opinions out of turn gets old fast.

9. Stop being selfish.

You get what you put into a relationship. Nothing less, nothing more.

10. Stop judging.

Everyone is fighting their own unique war. You have no clue what they are going through, just like they have no clue what you’re going through.

11. Stop gossiping.

Gossiping about others is always a lose-lose. It hurts them, and then it hurts your reputation.

12. Stop making promises you can’t keep.
Don’t over-promise. Instead, overdeliver- to others and yourself.

13. Stop being defensive.

Just because someone sees something differently then you doesn’t mean either one of you is wrong. Keep an open 5mind. Otherwise, you’ll never discover anything new.

14. Stop comparing people to others.

No two people are like. Everyone has their own strengths. We are only ever competing against ourselves.

15. Stop expecting people to be perfect.

Perfect is the enemy of good and genuine goodness is hard to find in this world. Don’t overlook it.

16. Stop trying to be everything to everyone.

It’s impossible. But making one person smile can change their world. So narrow your focus.

17. Stop cheating others just because you can get away with it.

Just because you can get away with something doesn’t mean you should do it. Think bigger. Do what you know in your heart is right.

18. Stop making mountains out of molehills.

People make mistakes. There’s no reason to stress out yourself and everyone around you because of it. Ask yourself, “Will this matter in one year’s time?” If not, let it go.

19. Stop being dramatic.

Stay out of other people’s drama and don’t needlessly create your own.

20. Stop giving out advice, and just listen

Less advice is often the best advice. People don’t need lots of advice, they need a listening ear and some positive reinforcement. What they want to know is already somewhere inside of them. They just need time to think, be, and breathe, and continue to explore the undirected journeys that will eventually help them find their direction.

19Dec

Here are some tips for detoxing your mind

From my perspective, the mind is one of the most important organisms of the body. Therefore having a clear mindset and vision is fundamental for achieving anything in life. Following are 5 ways in which a person can detox the mind and make room for better things.

Unfollow anyone who does not add positive value to your life

Be mindful of the things you are following on social media. Make sure those accounts are adding value to your life. Many of the things we see on social media are products of technology. In other words, computers can create and edit the perfect online life, but real life is a different thing. Constantly track the accounts you follow and unfollow those who are not adding value to your path. Clear out your social media space as you clean out your room, closet, or house.

Became selectively social

Who you share your time with is a product of who you are. So be aware of the people around you. Those associations have a meaningful impact in your life, it has the power to change your perspective of life. Be mindful of who you give your energy to and from who you are receiving energy.

Meditate

Meditation is a powerful tool to organize your mind. Do not confuse meditation with shooting your mind off; meditation is the power to organize your thoughts. When you are meditating, focus on one thing at a time, this is how meditation works. You are supposed to pay attention to one aspect of your life at the time, and that will create a habit of concentration. Preventing you from focusing your time on unnecessary stuff, there you will have a clear and organized mind all the time.

Ask yourself important questions.

Everyone has questions about life and how it works. Ask yourself, what is working on my life and what is not working? What aspects of my life can I improve to become a better person? Do I currently have any relationship that is not adding value or joy to my life? What is one habit that prevents me from becoming a better person, and how can I break it? You can ask yourself multiple questions daily to find out how you are doing in life and where you want to go. Ask those questions all the time.

Say “NO” whenever you are not ready.

If you have a habit of being a people pleaser or you find yourself overbook all the time, it is time for you to learn how to say NO. Is essential to prioritize your time and spend it on things that will fulfill your path and purpose in life. You should help other people with their path if you can, but do not forget that you are your masterpiece; therefore, you need most of your time.

Discover the power of the pause. Close your eyes and breath throughout your body. Slowly breathe through your nose and out throughout your mouth. Please your body needs, please your organisms by practicing simple steps. Detox your mind, and you will detox your life.

19Dec

How to DETOX your mind.

Though We have miles to go in terms of learning what it means to take care of our bodies, we are even further behind on how
to take care of our minds. Our brains construct our experiences and there are so many factors that alter and shift our perspectives that are completely in our control but totally out of our awareness. Here, a few things you can do to detox your mind, deprogram and wipe the slate clean now and again. Following are 18 ways in which a person can detox the mind and make room for better things.

1.Trvel to assimilate culture. Alter your base-point concept of “normal.” What it will show you is how many behaviors/values/beliefs you have unconsciously adopted from your surroundings ( and ways you can change them).

2. Create physical solutions for emotional problems. People default on the idea that one emotion will cancel out or fix another. If you are upset, seek a high to eliminate it. But negative emotions are just called to action that being ignored through a little mental gymnastics and a lot of justification, Detoxing your mind is letting go of emotion high in place of creating actual solutions.

3. know that emotional toxicity is born of mental resistance. listed if trying to create a certain emotional experience.

4. Identify your tethers. The Problems that are in from of you are actually behind you: they are cracks in your foundation that are holding you back. stop trying to dismantle symptoms; go back and identify the causes.

5. Go for a long drive and let yourself get lost. Drive through neighborhoods you never would have known existed.
See how other people live. See them come home from work and what their living rooms look like from the outside. It will comfort you in that you will realize how small you are in a more practical way than just staring at the ocean. You don’t know what you don’t know.

6. Rearrange your furniture. Your brain constructs your experiences through props and signals that those props fire off. you are continual. subconsciously triggering negative or stagnant associations because of how your brain processes your surroundings- change how you think, change what you feel.

7. Do a Mental purge. Just write down whatever weird thoughts continually, cross your mind of the little incoherent bits that are clogging your head. Just getting them out will give you relief.

8. Restructure your digital life. It’s not realistic(or desirable to lot of people) to be forever disconnected, but it’s also not realistic to keep things that don’t serve you positively in you social feeds and expect it not to affect you.

9. Notice your unconscious movements. Notice your feet walking and how you are not deciding yo ligy each one up and forward and yet because your mind said, “Okay, self lets get to this point today,” you began to go. Consider your morning intentions similarly.

10. Cleanse your space emotionally. Consider the emotional attachment you have to the things you keep around you. Did you buy those clothes to someone you’re not?
Do you have decor around your apartment that you got during a particularly crappy time in your life? Let those
things go, but decide what to let go by thinking about what they make you feel.

11. Place yourself. Make a chart with three columns and on the left write everything you feel you’ve
accomplished in your life and the middle writes down what your daily life entails and then on the right put what those consistent habits will lead to what you hope to do in the future. It helps you focus on the big picture; getting lost
in minutiae usually causes people anxiety.

12. Shift your physical position every time you start falling back into toxic thought cycles. This basically creates a new experience for your body and refocuses you in the moment( and it’s simple enough to do at your desk at work)

13. Stretch your brain. Pick up a book on something that interests you and learn more about it. Look at research on something you have a theory about.

14. Reevaluate the extent of your connected disconnectedness. if the bulk of your relationships happen digitally (that are not long distance) and you have not had a conversation in person without being interrupted by a phone in a long enough time , evaluate how much you are prioritizing people in your life, and realize that screens>people is basically the best way to create an extremely anxious lifestyle for yourself.

15. Identify what your addictions are keeping you distracted from. Most things people struggle with are addictions in some form: a thing you keep doing though you don’t really want to. Understand that addiction is a disconnection from yourself, and a disconnection from yourself is born of something present that you (think) you can’t face.

16. Learn to let “good enough” not be the opposite of perfect. If there is one thing that will give you the most mental-emotional relief it is in letting food enough be good enough.

17. Dismantle the parts of your life that are solely performative. The thing is that most of what clogs our minds is all the
the unnecessary effort we put into constructing a life that seems a little more palatable, a little more noble, a little better than someone else’s (so therefore good enough) But it accomplishes the opposite of what we intend: We place ourselves further from a genuinely happy experience (which is in accepting that life is small and simple and more than enough)
through grandiose ideas and attachments that end up making us into characters, not people.

18. Write down what you hate about other people. This is what you need to change about yourself/ your life( but are resisting too much to actually do something about). Know that it’s often not a surface-level issue: You don’t hate your annoying neighbor because she always bothers other people for lunch, you hate her because she acts as though she’s
desperate for love and you feel that way too but avoid it because you think it’s embarrassing. This is a cheat sheet to see what’s actually wrong in your life. It’s important because completely understanding the problem is the same thing as knowing the solution. If you don’t know what to do, you don’t know what’s wrong. If you don’t know what’s wrong, its because some part of you is resisting seeing it.

18Dec

How to Train Your Brain Manifest Your Dream Life.

Did you know that you are currently creating your own life’s experiences and circumstances with your conscious and unconscious thoughts?

As human beings, we ALL possess the ability to create the life we desire, using the power of our minds. And the truth is, you are constantly manifesting your external reality (whether you realize it or not).

You see, every thought, intention and emotion that you have (both positive AND negative), releases a specific vibration of energy into the universe, which essentially shapes the details of your life.

The power is already within you to create the life of your dreams; all you need to do is to understand how to harness this energy to bring you what you most desire.

Now, I know there are A LOT of techniques for manifestation and sometimes it can be a little bit overwhelming to find the most effective one. That’s why I’d like to help you by sharing my personal practices for successful manifestation right now. Just follow these 4 essential steps to start attracting your greatest desires into your life, by as soon as this time next week!

Step 1: Trust The Universe

Trusting in the unknown is not always easy, but it is an essential step when preparing to receive abundance from the universe. To open yourself up to receive, you must first believe that the universe will naturally work FOR you instead of AGAINST you.

To help you build trust in the process of life and in the universe, try this quick meditative practice each morning.

Before you get out of bed, practice taking a few very deep breaths. Visualize yourself breathing trust INTO your mind and slowly exhaling fear OUT of your mind.

Clearing yourself from negative energy and actively inviting positive energy into your mind at the start of each day will help you attract more positivity into your life. Then throughout the day, be open to receiving guidance from the universe and trust that every experience (even if it’s challenging) is happening to push you closer to your divine purpose.

Step 2: Know What You Want

It’s much easier to manifest with accuracy if you’re clear on what you truly want. Whether it’s to have better relationships, attain your perfect body, to land your dream job or to achieve financial freedom… you need to have a clear picture in your mind of what you want to create.

Make a list of all the things that bring you happiness now, as well as the things that will bring you happiness in the future. Describe them with as much detail as possible. This list will help you visualize the people, opportunities, and experiences that you want with more intention and emotion, which will massively boost the power of your visualizations.

Step 3: Say Thank You For What’s To Come

Now that you’ve opened yourself up to receiving and you’re crystal clear on what you want, take some time to feel gratitude for what’s to come.

Imagine yourself already living the life you desire and feel truly appreciative for all of the abundance that’s coming your way.

Gratitude opens the door to even MORE success, happiness and love… so practice this simple habit as much as you possibly can!

Step 4: Take Action

As you may know, manifesting is not about just sitting around and waiting for your dream life, it also requires commitment and action! Start by implementing these 4 steps into your life today and if you’re still looking to get faster results, then have a quick look at this really COOL FREE training program created by my friend and dream-building expert Mary Morrissey.

Mary knows how frustrating manifesting your ideal life can be and that’s why she has put together a 75-minute FREE online training called ‘Dream Builder’, which will help you clear your emotional blocks, get clear on your life purpose and cultivate more confidence in yourself and your dreams. She’s helped thousands of people attract more joy and happiness into their life and now she wants to help you!

So take action right now by reserving your spot on this amazing training and discover how to bring your biggest dreams to life. You’ll be glad you did. 🙂

16Dec

How can mindfulness be used to break bad habits?

Mindfulness shows us what’s going on at a given moment, so we can assess our actions and let go of old habits and form new ones. Mindfulness involves being curious about what’s going on, which can be a rewarding experience for the brain. Curiosity might make you realize that you’re feeling restless or stressed.
I got carried away indulging things. We want to break bad habits, but those habits bring us enjoyment of some shape or kind. The fact is, we become involved in things. You have to ask yourself: what is bad about your habits? How might you change them? Do something different?

If you pay close attention, awareness doesn’t change the contents of the experience — rather, it frees us, here and now, to choose what to do with the contents of the experience, and how to view it.

Awareness puts things into their context. In other words, being mindful is not a thing that you are doing, instead, we might say, being mindful is ceasing to become involved in things. We see the bigger picture, the long game.

That is how mindfulness helps “break bad habits.” It doesn’t break them. You must choose freely to do something else. We cease to become involved in things that no longer serve us. Whatever we are attached to, we let go.

Example: “I’m quitting smoking.” Or binging, or drinking, or whatever. When we are mindful, we don’t need to think about smoking etc., because even if or when we find ourselves reaching for a smoke — or we’re deep into a binge — wherever we are, whenever, the moment we awake and become aware of our situation, we are “presented” with a choice: (1) continue our behavior or (2) do anything else. Here’s where breathing is useful. If you choose option 2: breathe. Recognize the moment of transition. How might one live differently?

Having a plan is important, a method. Each time I think about smoking I get to choose whether to indulge a painful/pleasure-seeking/dangerous/seductive vice or do anything else, have an entirely different trip.

Experiment. Try different things. Practice mindfulness wherever/whenever you can. May you find what you seek.

#mindfulness programs to treat #addiction, break bad habits & more, like the ones created by @judbrewer of @MindfulBrown, can be more effective than traditional ones. His new book is “Unwinding Anxiety”

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16Dec

How To Grow From Introvert To Extrovert (Mindset)

I know a lot of you don’t have to read this since you’re an entrepreneur there is a high chance that you have gotten used to talking to others however this is for the people who are still a bit shy or are terrified that their first day of being an entrepreneur means standing on stages with thousands of people

Or maybe there is a man or woman that you are in love with and you desperately want to tell them your true feelings another one could be asking your scary boss for a pay raise

Before we dive in I want to let you know that if you want to be in business you are going to be holding yourself back if you can’t present yourself the reason why is that you’re eventually going to have to talk to someone

This fear could have been implemented into you from when you were a child your parents would say “Don’t talk to strangers” or maybe you tried getting yourself out of your comfort zone but you were embarrassed and mocked so now you have developed fear

But in the big world if you don’t talk to strangers you must be broke Some people even say that the amount of money you make is connected to how many strangers you talk to daily think about the world of business it’s all about…

Getting attention then turning strangers into friends then turning a customer into a raving fan

So if you’re not talking to strangers you cannot be making more money especially if you’ve just started your business since marketing and trying to get your name out there requires a tonne of meeting random people

This is why this barrier needs to be broken if you want to have any success in business but what is the step to getting there?

Go to Speaking training events

This is a great idea since it helps you get out of your comfort zone and helps you gain little by little how to master the art of communication I know it can be scary to do but this is when you have to force yourself to take action and overcome your limitation

Besides, your going to be interacting with people who are just as shy as you so there is no need to worry about people making fun of you also consider that you aren’t going to be the next Tony Robbins overnight however with time and persistence you will get better

IN SHORT

Being in the world of entrepreneurship is all about getting attention and making a fan base of great buyers however how can you get to that point if you are too scared to get your name out there?

People buy from people they know and trust and if you’re nobody then a lot of people are going to feel cold doing business with you but don’t worry about with the right training and persistence you can start to get better

Just remember being an introvert isn’t born into you it can be changed but it’s going to take time, dedication and a few embarrassing moments but it will all be worth it when everyone knows your company, you get the love of your life, you take credit for the work you do, you articulate your work and can be a super confident extrovert

Stay well everyone 😊

14Dec

Advancing Self-Help/Improvement Topics: How to make the most of this difficult year!

It is recommended that you take precautions and do your best to ensure. There are some of us, however, who have reached higher levels of understanding, and we can approach this adversity in a different way.

1- You have a strong internal locus of control

Psychologists explain that you have an internal locus of control is when you are in control of your life. Meanwhile, if you have an external locus of control, you believe that anything wrong that happens to you can be attributed to factors outside of your control.

If you are in the former group, you can focus on the how-to best tackle the situation at hand. Get it down and then focus on how you can make the best of the situation. However, if you have an external locus of control, you might have a meltdown and start panicking. It’s fascinating that it didn’t make out any of this. Instead, I’m seeing how different groups of people are dealing with the situation at hand. While some can make the necessary precautions and focus on their goals, others letting the case break them down.

2- During this downtime you can start valuing what matters to you

Hopefully, by now you this situation serves as a wake-up call for some of you. You now know that life and time are finite, and they can end at the drop of a hat. If you have been living your life as a cog in the machine, you can unplug yourself and genuinely have this time to rethink your life decisions.

If you have been living your life scared or worried over the most mundane things like handing in homework late or arguing with your superiors, then now it’s the time to stop that! It’s time for you to appreciate the life you have as a unique gift.

3- An Optimist sees the opportunity

I’ve seen cynism taking advantage of people during these hard times. For instance, people who would use price gauging to charge others for essential items, a morally reprehensible behavior.

However, in your case, you can use this time to finally do an online job that you’ve wanted to do for a long time. Or to start a small online business. Now that you see the flimsiness of life, you can begin to be daring and taking the risk since there’s nothing to fear.

4- You can use this time to pursue your goals aggressively

While some acquaintances of mine were panicking, those who I admired made the most out of the situation. For instance, this LA singer who I like started doing challenges for her fans and took this stay at home time to connect better with her fanbase. Meanwhile, a friend who is a fashion designer has taken this time off to produce more content. At this stage, he can create one video a day, which will help him exponentially grow his brand.

This experience has taught me a life lesson. While we are all going through the same situation, some of us deal with it radically different. On the one hand, we have entrepreneurs and hustlers who find creative ways to keep on thriving. Meanwhile, we have others who easily crumble under pressure. Now, I’m not talking about first responders who are admirable. I’m talking about those people who find ways to make a problematic situation worst for themselves and others.

Conclusion

Anyway, guys, I thought I’d share that life lesson since I see it all around. It’s undeniable. This situation is serious, and your main priority is to keep yourself and your family safe. However, it’s also essential to try and make the best out of any bad situation we have. It also invites us to a broader reflection. Sometimes some of you ask me, “If my parents were rich, my life would have been different” or “If the people at my high school were good, I would have had an incredible social life.” How can we see that different groups of people are dealing with the same cards, yet some see it as a catastrophe others see its ways to overcome it?

Some questions to reflect on:

“How can I make the best out of the situation?”

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