The 20 things I wish I’d known in my 20s

THERE IS ONE key factor that can either damage your relationship or deepen them: your attitude. If you’re hoping to grow and maintain positive relationships in your life, read on. Below you will find a twenty-step attitude adjustment guaranteed to help you do just that.

1. Stop holding grudges.

 Grudges are a waste of perfect happiness.

2. Stop complaining.

Instead, use your time and energy to do something about it.

3. Stop meaning what you don’t say

People can’t read minds. Communicate regularly and effectively.

4. Stop making it all about you.

The world revolves around the sun, not you. Take a moment to acknowledge this truth on a regular basis

5. Stop lying.

In the long run, the truth always reveals itself. Either you own up to your actions or your actions will ultimately own you.

6. Stop blaming.

When you blame others for what you’re going through, you deny responsibility-you give up your power over that part of your life, and you annoy everyone around you in  the process.

7. Stop doubting.

Don’t let your self-doubt interfere with other people’s dreams. Be supportive, or stay out of the way.

8. Stop interrupting.

Correcting someone when they’re blatantly wrong is one thing, but always interjecting your opinions out of turn gets old fast.

9. Stop being selfish.

You get what you put into a relationship. Nothing less, nothing more.

10. Stop judging.

Everyone is fighting their own unique war. You have no clue what they are going through, just like they have no clue what you’re going through.

11. Stop gossiping.

Gossiping about others is always a lose-lose. It hurts them, and then it hurts your reputation.

12. Stop making promises you can’t keep.    
Don’t over-promise. Instead, overdeliver- to others and yourself.

13. Stop being defensive.  

Just because someone sees something differently then you doesn’t mean either one of you is wrong. Keep an open 5mind. Otherwise, you’ll never discover anything new.

14. Stop comparing people to others.

No two people are like. Everyone has their own strengths. We are only ever competing against ourselves.

15. Stop expecting people to be perfect.

Perfect is the enemy of good and genuine goodness is hard to find in this world. Don’t overlook it.

16. Stop trying to be everything to everyone.

It’s impossible. But making one person smile can change their world. So narrow your focus.

17. Stop cheating others just because you can get away with it.

Just because you can get away with something doesn’t mean you should do it. Think bigger. Do what you know in your heart is right.

18. Stop making mountains out of molehills.

People make mistakes. There’s no reason to stress out yourself and everyone around you because of it. Ask yourself, “Will this matter in one year’s time?”  If not, let it go.

19. Stop being dramatic.

Stay out of other people’s drama and don’t needlessly create your own.

20. Stop giving out advice, and just listen

Less advice is often the best advice. People don’t need lots of advice, they need a listening ear and some positive reinforcement. What they want to know is already somewhere inside of them. They just need time to think, be, and breathe, and continue to explore the undirected journeys that will eventually help them find their direction.