As we enter a new year, it’s important to take a step back and reflect on our habits and behaviors. Are there certain things that we do to ourselves that hold us back from achieving our goals and living a happy and fulfilling life?
If so, it’s time to make a change. Here are 23 things that you should stop doing to yourself in 2023:
- Stop spending time with the wrong people.
Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you. If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you. You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot. Never, ever beg for the attention of someone who continuously overlooks your worth. And remember, it’s not the people who stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst who are your true friends.
- Stop running from your problems.
Face them head-on. No, it won’t be easy. We aren’t supposed to be able to instantly solve problems. In fact, we’re made to get upset, sad, hurt, stumble, and fall. Because that,s the whole purpose of living-to face problems, learn, adapt, and solve them over the course of time. This is what ultimately molds us into the person we become.
- Stop lying to yourself.
Our lives improve only when we take chances, and the first and most difficult chance we can take is to be honest with over selves.
- Stop putting your own needs on the back burner.
The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too. Yes, help others; but help yourself too. If there was ever a moment to follow your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now.
- Stop trying to be someone you’re not.
Ones of the greatest challenges in life in life is being yourself in world that’s trying to Make you like everyone else. Someone will always be prettier, someone will always be smarter, someone will always be younger, but they will never be you. Don’t change so people will like you. Be yourself and the right people will love real you.
- Stop trying to hold on the past.
You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep rereading your last one.
- Stop being scared to make a mistake.
Doing something and getting it wrong is at least ten times more productive than doing nothing. Every success has a trail of failures behind it, and every failure is leading toward success. You end up regretting the things you did not do far more than the things you did.
- Stop berating yourself for old mistakes.
We all make mistake, have struggles, and even regret things in our past. But you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here now with the power to shape your day and your future. Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.
- Stop trying to buy happiness.
Many of the things we desire are expensive. But the truth is, the things that really satisfy us are totally free- love, laughter, and working on our passions.
- Stop looking to others for happiness.
If you’re not happy with who you are on the inside, you won’t be happy in a long-term relationship with anyone else either. You have to create stability in your own life first before you can share it with someone else.
- Stop waiting.
Don’t think too much or you’ll create a problem that wasn’t even there in the first place. Evaluate situations and take decisive action. You can’t change what you refuse to confront. Making progress involves risk. Period! You can’t make it to second base with your foot on first.
- Stop thinking you’re not ready.
Nobody ever feels 100% ready when an opportunity arises. Most great opportunities in life force us to grow beyond our comfort zones, which mean we won’t feel totally comfortable at first.
- Stop getting involved in relationships just because old ones didn’t work.
Relationship must be chosen wisely. It’s better to be alone than to be in bed company. There’s no need to rush. If something is meant to be, it will happen-in the right time, with the right person, and for the best reason. Fall in love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely.
- Stop rejecting new relationship just because old ones didn’t work.
In life you’ll realize that there is a purpose for everyone you meet. Some will test you, some will teach you. But most important, some will bring out the best in you.
- Stop trying to compete against everyone else.
Don’t worry about what others are doing better than you. Concentrate on beating your own records every day. Success is a battle between you and yourself only.
- Stop being jealous of others.
Jealousy is the art of counting someone else’s blessings instead of your own. Ask yourself this: “What’s something I have that everyone wants?”
- Stop complaining and feeling sorry for yourself.
You may not see or understand everything the moment it happens, and it may be tough. But reflect back on those negative curveballs thrown at you in the past. You’ll often see that eventually, they led you to a better place, person, state of mind, or situation.
- Stop holding grudges.
Don’t live your life with hate in your heart. Forgiveness is the answer…let go, find peace, and liberate yourself! And remember, forgiveness is not just other people, it’s for you too. If you must forgive yourself, move on, and try to do better next time.
- Stop wasting time explaining yourself to others.
Your friends don’t need it and your enemies won’t believe it anyway. Just do what you know in your heart is right.
- Stop letting others bring you down to their level.
Refuse to lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs.
- Stop doing the same things over and over without taking a break.
The time to take a deep breath is when you don’t have time for it. If you keep doing what you’re doing, you’ll keep getting what you’re getting. Sometimes you need to distance yourself to see things clearly.
- Stop overlooking the beauty of small moments.
Enjoy the little things, because one day you may look back and discover they were the big things. The best portion of your life will be the small, nameless moments you spend smiling with someone who matters to you.
- Stop trying to make things perfect.
Making mistakes is always better than faking perfection. Live your life accepting that you’re not perfect, rather than spending your whole life pretending to be.